Guidelines I live by

GUIDELINES/rules according to Louise

A guideline is a statement by which to determine a course of action. A guideline aims to streamline particular processes according to a set routine or sound practice. By definition, following a guideline is never mandatory. Guidelines are not binding and are not enforced.

I prefer to call it guidelines rather than rules quite frankly because I like to allow for flexibility and change as I evolve and become for aware.

Manners: Always say please and thank you. Be aware of what is in the best interest of all sides. Respect cultures differences and agendas with politeness.

Drugs/alcohol: Know your limits, only partake in an environment you know and with people you trust, or take a pass.

Balance: lead with your heart and your head. And let common-sense prevail.

Do-diligence: Do your homework. If you are in a position to make life=altering decisions for yourself, or others, make sure you have your ducks in a row and you have gathered all the facts.

Gratitude: Remember no one is obligated to do anything for you so when they do – be grateful and be sure to express it.

Commitments: one example – Always be on time, if an appointment with anyone is important enough to make it is important to be on-time. Your time is not more important than anyone else’s, bar none.

Your word/truth: always tell the truth, without the truth you have nothing. Know the truth, speak the truth and live your truth. Lies serves no one they just set up a domino effect of destruction. Lying serves no one albeit telling the truth can be challenging to communicate at times. Step up and demonstrate good character.

Words matter: Have a kind word for others, compassion expressed up-lifts us all. Likewise, hurtful words can destroy a life.

Speak-up:  for what is right and decent not just for yourself but in defense of those who cannot defend themselves.

Perspective: Put yourself in other people’s shoes. See their perspective. Look beyond yourself. Life is not all about you. When you look at someone see them, not look for a reflection of yourself.

Boundaries: Know when to stay and talk, when to fight, and when to walk away. Know when to give, know when to demand, know when to say no, know when enough is enough.

Body/mind/spirit:  Remember you will get old and what you do when you are young will determine the quality of your life as you age. Live your life from a holistic perspective.

Judgement: we are judged by how we treat the most vulnerable – the young, the elderly our sick and our animals.

What’s worth it: Some things are worth dying for: know what they are.

Mental Health:  Don’t let anyone invalidate your feelings and your experiences. Don’t let other people opinions force you into silence and to live a secret, it will make you sick. Don’t let anyone tell you to let it go, get on with it, stop living in the past and move on. If you have been violated by someone else look for help and keep talking until you feel you have found justice and resolution.

Sex: Have sex with anyone you want provided if it is with someone who is able to consent.  However, never have sex with someone at your workplace or on your home territory unless you are very very sure. Enjoy responsibly.

Heroes: choose your role-models carefully and don’t follow blindly.

Power: is a gift, don’t abuse it, be humble. Arbitrary use of power is abuse.

Money:  is a tool that can be taken away at any time. Respect the power of the dollar. It can be used for good or evil.

Breaking the rules: there is a time to follow the rules and a time to break them. Wisdom is knowing where the red line is. If you don’t have your own rules/guidelines you will be easily influenced to follow someone else’s.

Red flags & your instict: eg – fear is a red flag that maybe you are going in the wrong direction. Your gut will alert you to rethink a situation, listen to it.  It is your higher self speaking to you and it is in your best interest to listen and take heed.